Thursday, October 02, 2008

No More Miss Nice Eva

You've won this round... but the night is still young.
- Alexis on Dynasty

I can be a bit of a pushover sometimes. Conflict with strangers has always made me uncomfortable and I avoid it.

But something changed last night. When this lady stole my parking space on a rainy night in Winooski, I just couldn't help myself, I backed up and waited for her to get out of her car.

Bitch took a long time becasue she KNEW she had stolen my spot and she did so not want to face the music.

This is how our brief conversation went:

Me: (politely) Excuse, me, I was backing up to park there.

Her: (defensive) Yeah, I didn't see you but now I'm parked so...

Me (resolute) Well, I saw it first so that isn't fair.

Her: (freaking out) Yeah, if I was you I'd be pissed too but I already parked, BLAH BLAH STOOPID BLABBING like a honky ass geese.

Me: (calmly) Yeah, well I don't want to fight but what you did was not cool.

Then I drove away to leave her to her selfish, shitty life. I was a little upset but got over it fast.

I get points because I stood up for myself, got that shit off my chest immediately and did not get needlessly embroiled in a big pointless fight.

One small step for Evakind on her road to Alexis-ville. I think part of growing up is learning how to defend yourself in a healthy fashion. And it feels goooood.


LadrĂ³n de Basura (a.k.a. Junk Thief) said...

A mean Eva? Oh, I can't even imagine it!

We missed you in Manhattan this weekend. Let's plan on a meet up i San Francisco or Vermont.

Pillows for the People said...

I'm so proud of you!

Undead Molly said...

YAY YAYY! This is a powerful, positive moment Eva. You did everything right.


Oh I know EXACTLY how you feel!! I always avoid conflicts too but if you do, then ppl walk all over you!! Go Eva you is ferece!

Eva the Deadbeat said...

Thank you Molly! That means a lot because you always know the right thing to do in those stoopid awkward social moments.

Miss P - I wish I had more of your NYC sassy brass but in time maybe...

Gregg, I would soooo love that! And do not worry, I will only be mean to those who deserve it due to their odious and loathsome behavior.

Eva the Deadbeat said...

Sachie! FFFTT! We gotta be like Goma and Crawford and HSSSSSS when people rub us wrong!

Q_Monroe said...

go you. there is fire in you yet -- and i got to hear a little glimpse of it yesterday. oh boy -- how i wish i had been recording that conversation... you are a woman to be reckoned with and one to be respected & admired.