Heart Day

Theroux paints a portrait of a man [Edward Gorey] who lived a fairly solitary existence by choice, friendly, generous, and apparently comfortable with strangers, but strongly preferring to be alone most of the time.

Valentine's Day can be barf-inducing when you are single. Since I am generally of the single-variety, I have gotten used to that yearly barfy aftertaste. So I was pleasantly surprised this year when this dreaded day didn't suck?! Wha...?!

For starters, Suzanne the Cake Fairy delivered some tasty treats to a lucky few (I'm not worthy) and I promptly ate the entire thing! Yum! I hearts you Suzanne and I am so glad your love of Valentine's Day doth spilleth over onto my plate!

And then sweet Katie left roses on my stoop?!?! Flowers, pour moi!?! Crawford got so excited that he knocked them over. Take me back to Puerto Rico Kate, the ocean misses us!

And then there were some thoughtful cards that are now sitting atop my fridge, and even some emails and texts from far off loved ones.

Damn, it turns out that you can be a solitary old maid AND enjoy this stoopid ass commercial holiday too?! Thank you modern life, thank you.

Happy Heart Day

This video will warm the chilliest of hearts, mine feels all fuzzah now:

Happy Heart Day

Let's face it, Valentine's Day sucks when you are single. But that is not to say that it is always so great to be in a couple on Valentine's Day either. My point is that I have been doing a lot of soul searching this winter and even though it is Valentine's Day and I am alone, I feel pretty good about that.

Below is a new DBC Vlog reviewing Regina Spektor's song "Fidelity" and talking about what it means to be whole versus to have holes. And how we are all just trying to figure the same shit out, whether we are single, coupled or Einstein.

“A human being is part of a whole, called by us the Universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separated from the rest a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”

Albert Einstein

I shot this vlog many months ago but thought VDay would be a good time to finally edit and post the sucker. Much of the darkness I am referring to in it has, luckily, passed. But it lingers, and probably will the rest of my life. I am ok about that. It is a continuing journey but it is nice to know you are not the only one making it.



So on that note, this video goes out to my ladies who have been taking this dark journey into the great beyond by my side this winter: Suzanne, Lesh, Abbie, Lani, Margot, Tracy, Kelly, Renee, Sarah, Sophie and the Mollys.

This video also goes out to Tony in Nashville who made me the best mix CD ever and tried valliantly to post a Wikipedia entry for me (!?), to Tonci in Croatia, James in Manchester, Parisa in NYC, Travis in SF, James in Little Rock, Zack in LA, Keith in Austin, The Junk Thief in SF, Joanne in LA, Nathan in Austin, Jeff and Charlie in SF, Robin in Alameda, Lauren in Oakland, Jeff in Waterbury, Jeff in Alameda, Anne-Marie and Charity in the UK, Chris in Indiana, Tyler in ?, all my best buddies at the Flynn and 7 Days and the nice people who sent me VDay cards ... jeez, what is this my Oscar speech? The point is that love is everywhere, you just have to open your heart up and there it is!

Happy Valentine's Day everybody! xoxoxo